Labels can SUCK IT.

I've found myself in a very committed relationship of two years. There are no questions about what either one of us want out of the shindig. It's all very straight to the point and we've been honest since day one. I can only speak for myself and say that when I got into this relationship I was coming out of a real doozy of a situation with my chitlins father. Drama galore. So, I walked into this one with my guard up -- and ready to get fucked over again.

What I've found interesting in the time that we have been together, people have always wondered why things have progressed slowly. Merging lives, children...etc. To us it's always been simple to take it slow and not rush into anything huge. I've found that more damage can be done by rushing into relationship situations than good.

So now I for one (I'm sure he isn't) gets asked questions about things as simple as getting married, having more children... you know. Things that are considered normal for most people to wonder about. But personally these are things that just don't cross my mind at all.

Sure, I have a vagina and I'd love to have a huge wedding and be married. But now I'm at the point where I think what will that do? Not because I'm leery of any part of our situation, but because in my life I've found that a label, or some piece of paper is not going seal the deal. When you love someone, you just love them. That's it! Life for some of us can really be that simple.

So why is it so hard to understand for others? I get that in life we observe other people and what situations they are in but why the harp-ness of a wedding and more kids? I'm sure we're all guilty of asking questions... but why such intrusive questions?

But in the end, this is the thing. I dont want to be met with OMG shock and awe when I say, no. I don't really think we *need* to get married ever, and no, we don't want anymore kids. I have two of my own that are grown and he has none. We have a bit of an age gap (12 years) and we are both at the point in life where we just want things to calm down and enjoy each other. Not start all over and have to worry about diapers...oh and you know, me birthing a baby. No go. This vagina is closed for baby business.

To those who are married and happy or wanting that, it's cool. I get you. This isn't a rant against any of that. Sometimes I just feel like we need to let go of the labels that life tries to force upon us and just do in the end what makes us feel happy/loved/adored.

In the end, all we need to do is make ourselves happy and cut the BS of worrying about what others think. It's a no win situation when that goes down.

So internet, make yourself happy. In whatever shape or form that is. It's all about you, be a selfish bitch or asshole and just do it for yourself. That's what's going to count in the end.